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Making a Good Impression July 20, 2007 Day to day life would be very different without other people. If one day you happened to be the last person on Earth, you would suffer from the lack of social contact with other live people. Other people exist so we have somebody to share our life with including our interests and hobbies. A large part of my reason for living at my full potential is because of others. I want to share what I've done with others for the benefit of all. Some may think that finding ways to make others like you seems a little deceitful. That is not the case. The majority of us are good people and deserve to receive kindness from others. We all have likable characteristics that can contribute to the life of another. I would like to help you to be able to express yourself fully so others can see the real you. You should never change who you are to be liked by others but you can act in a way that will showcase your energy and your life so even if you are not someone's best friend, you will be a respectable acquaintance. The most important thing to be sure that your full character is revealed to others is to have a joyful attitude. No one wants to be around someone that is acting mean and nasty, unless of course they are nasty themselves. Rather, you need a positive view on life. Don't expect to sit around depressed all day and then go out and be the life of a party. You need to have an energy about you. When I say an energy I am talking about a feeling within yourself of higher consciousness. This joyful state will influence others and cause them to subconsciously be drawn to you. To make others like you, you need some "Good Vibrations," like "The Beach Boys." If you have a positive state of mind then you will be able to reveal who you are on the inside. However, don't try to fake a happy attitude. Faking happiness isn't going to make people like you. They will see the discrepancy between how you are trying to act and how you actually feel. As far as a good attitude goes, there can be too much of a good thing. Don't overdo it or you may end up scaring the people you are trying to connect with. When you are in a positive state most of the rest will come very easily. These other friendly gestures will come easily once you become aware of them. Be sure to smile and look at whomsoever you are talking to. This will show that you are interested. What would an interested person do? Correct, they would listen and actually be interested opposed to just pretending. You need to have an active interest in other people. Like them and they will probably like you. As you are talking to them remember where their interests are. This is helpful in continuing open ended conversation. Ask them about what interests them using questions that are designed for extended response instead of standard yes or no multiple choice questions. Life is about sharing experiences so don't be afraid to wander past safe conversation which talks of things of very little significance, like the weather. Safe talk is not bad but very little is gained from it. To reiterate, making others realize they like you involves mostly your presence. Try to give other people the feeling like you are someone worth knowing by being friendly and contributing to conversation and other aspects of their lives. No one likes someone who believes they are better than others so if anything of that sort enters into your mind release it immediately. We are all equals. Even if you aren't outright rude but you still think you are better than someone it will show in your attitude. Though you may not act on your pride, it will subtly appear in your disposition so don't even think for a second that you are higher than someone else. Being liked by others is not about unleashing external power to influence them. It is about being good and whole on the inside so you are someone that deserves to be liked and has something to share with others. Don't focus on what you will get from any particular relationship but rather, focus on what you can give. Make sure it is true heartfelt goodwill though. Don't be too kind if you will become resentful later if they never pay you back. Only once you learn to give of your life to others will they truly like you. Another way to make others like you is to simply share to the full extent who you are in conversation. If you read something interesting in the past week then by all means tell others about it. If you heard a new song that you enjoyed on the radio share that also. If you are living your life to the full, trying to unleash you full potential, and care for the goodwill of others than you will have plenty of useful thoughts to share with others. However, sometimes it is very easy to slip into routines in which our own lives are boring and stale. If you don't like yourself and how you are living your life I can guarantee that by that fact less people will like you. So to be more likable simply consciously lead your own life so you have valuable insights to share with others. One's outlook on life is not only important in making others like you but it is also highly linked to everything else in life. Expect to be liked but don't be crushed when you aren't. If you are a good person then they just haven't had the chance yet to see the full you. They will miss out because of the great friend you could have been to them had they looked deeper into who you are. Be a friend to make friends. Joshua Schwarz